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Tuesday, July 8, 2008

we put on...

the "blind date" part was the only true part of "how did you guys meet"?

we have not told our family members we met online..why?

our story is a friend of a friend who works with a friend of a coworker hooked us up...and they are okay with that?? WOW...

why is it bad that we met and fell in love online? I don't hang out at clubs, I barely leave the 15 mile radius around my home and job so it was just natural I'd meet someone online since I spend most of my time on the computer.

We didn't meet thru a dating service..DAMN we didn't even met thru a mutual friend
WE innocently started chatted online, I asked him about places to hang downtown, he invited me out telling me he'd show me around, we were just gonna be friends. We both told ourselves that.
I got sick the weekend of..and nervous about dating someone that lived so close. I almost cancelled completely...
But I gathered my courage and we had a great first date...I knew right away I wanted to be more than just friends with the Champ.

I've never dated anyone in Atlanta in the 11 years I've lived here except for the man that I was married to and we never went out... so its been a treat to be involved with someone close who can show me around the city. He's like a handmade blanket to me, so comforting and warm and I really enjoy being in his presence.

Every single weekend since we've met have been ours..we've always been together...they've been filled with concerts (even whodini), movies (Vantage Point, sex in the city, Hulk, Ironman, 21, Wanted, Kung Fu Panda), basketball, kids, fireworks, tattoos, the Easter Bunny, his mom, my family, his sister, scrabble, restuarants..tons of FOOD and DRINKS!!!, even the modern dance (Alvin Ailey), lots of MUSIC, the pool, stonemountain hikes, well ONE stone mountain hike, x-rated scrabble, visits to the SEX TOY SHOP, a book reading, a shared birthday, and most importantly love..just love, love, love.

so why is it bad we met online?? why come we gotta put on for our family AND FRIENDS??

11 comments:

Roddykat said...

Awww, That's so sweet. I was wondering what's been going on with you. :)

X-rated Scrabble and Sex shops, huh? Sweet! And what a coincidence, too. I mulling around a post on games like X rated Scrabble. We need to talk!

Now to answer your question. Why you have to airs for the fam? really, you don't have to, but to keep the peace and a piece of mind, you feel that way. I can not only the questions you would et, but probably have gotten them myself. Anyway...

It's the simple fact that all you hear about on the News is Internet bad. Child predators, killers, thieves, etc. and the like are all there is out there(granted there are some, but you know what I'm saying). Now, you, me, and out here in the know and the do, know better.

People not immersed in net culture don't get to see that not only do people meet on the net, but get married, also. All they see is what the TV tells them, which is a sad state of affairs in itself. Personally, I have met some very cool people I would LOVE to hang out with (yourself included). I've also met a young lady that I am proud to call my little sister though we share no blood. Older folk and non net savvy people won't get that. hence the front that you feel that have to do.

Wait, did you say tattoos?

B. Good said...

Why?

The stigma of online dating in society is still negative.

Their (family and friends) opinion of your relationship matters to you.

Maybe you've been chastised before for meeting someone online.

Perhaps you're subtly embarrassed about how you met.

?

I say give the friends and fam a chance to rise to the occasion. There's no reason to put on.

Mizrepresent said...

Gurl, i love it... for some reason i feel it is great to meet a person online...online you share your darkest secrets, you let yourself go, because you think noone else is listening, is reading and then out of nowhere comes that one that gets you, you...find that puzzle piece, why not.

but truthfully i know how fam is, cuz my mom always questions me about my online friends and i have to explain to her...they are just like anyone you would meet on the street, in a club, on a job... except they probably know more about me than anyone i know.

Qucifer said...

don't fret ...My sister met and married some eharmony joker AND they told the story at their wedding, I, like you, am not much of a clubber and technically a homebody, so the notion of dating from online is not the worst thing in life considering i'm normal, not hiding anything and it does widen my dating pool options!, the way I always put it to people that meeting online is no worse than them people that up until the turn of the century met via letters and never set eyes on each other until damned near their wedding date!

Gemini Girl aka GG said...

awww Mr. Sweetie Rod..thanks for the kind words and they are all so true..our parents are ole skool so yes they've only heard the bad about the internet..can't wait to read your post on xrated games!!! yes we both got gemini tatts...
bgood, hey stranger..nice to see you!!! we aren't embarrassed we just didn't want to do a whole bunch of explaining and proving, etc...lol
miz .. yep you are right..nowadays everything is pretty much done online..banking, shopping, networking, and especially dating. its just the sign o the times!
hey Q, welcome! yes! and what about arranged marriages..you never see them til your wedding day..at least on line you can hopefully see photos upfront..atho some photos lie..and you can chat and get to know one another before you actually meet.

Mr.Slish said...

Nothing wrong with that...I've been dating online since 2000...I was still going out to clubs but those nights when my pockets were EMPTY a brotha would by two or three Heinekens and chat away...

Tell them the truth..They might not judge you at all....

CapCity said...

if i didn't like u both I would barf - yes, I am slightly bitter - but, i've had several dranks & just broke off the "farce" of a ?ship I had... *HUGE DAYUMMMMM SIGH* - but, u both are THE CUTEST!!! & u give me HOPE! But, do I have to move to HOTazzzLanta to find such a romance? LOL! Hey Girlie! U know it's all love!! fo' real fo' real! gonna be at Miz's soon - with a cupla bottles of wine cryin' da blues on her fabulous patio set...but, then - who KNOWS - I may be doin' the BoBo-praise dance cuz I've met my OWN version of a SBK somewheres....

sending cyber hugz cuz I'm GLAD SUMBODIES gettin' SUM and actually LIKE EACH other;-)... heck - if your family ain't comfy with the cyber hook-up thang - do they REALLY need to KNOW? Nooooooooo!!!!!! tha's a SMALLLL matter!!! enjoy Sistah GG! going to sleep now - no more "drunk blogging" for me. heee hheeee - for tonite anyway;-)

Gemini Girl aka GG said...

Mr. Slish..ur azz ain't been dating..you have a wifey now!!! and you're right..I'm sure they would be fine with it..we spend so much time with them and they see how we are with each other...they are just so OLD FASHIONED!!!
thanks cap..we have mucho love-o for you!!! and please let us hang with you and miz when you come back..we promise not to be all mushy mushy lovey dovey! I think we just found each other at the right time when we were in a good spot in our lives...we didn't plan it, and its not 100% perfect..maybe 97% TEEHEE we are just enjoying our time now.

Tha L said...

for one reason only: you give a shit what people around you think. You let THAT go, you'll have a much more free life. Smooches! Oh, and you seem quite happy. Smile on, sis!

Kei said...

I am glad to hear that you have found such a good love here in Atlanta. If it feels good and is the real thing, I say hold on to it for as long as you can, because good relationships are so hard to find...
Who knows how God will choose to send your blessings or "soul mate?" If it feels like it was sent from heaven, it probably is, and there's no need to dismiss it simply because it was an online introduction. Whether you meet someone online or face to face, you still take a chance of things not working out. It's just that online meetings have to be handled with a little more caution, which is understandable. Some people tend to think it's bad to date someone that you met online because of the many stigma's attached like serial killers, pedaphiles, etc., but you have to be careful with anyone you date, regardless. Always take time to get to know someone and make smart, mature, decisions.

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